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Meet People Where They Are: Galileoâ€™s Epic Fail
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by: Lisa Earle McLeod
Have you ever tried to change someoneâ€™s mind?
Thanksgiving after Thanksgiving you tell yourself that youâ€™re not going to engage with crazy Uncle Ned and his racist (or sexist, or liberal or conservative views) again. But then, two, OK four, glasses of wine later, and youâ€™re right there having the same argument you have every year.
The facts are on your side. Yet despite your well-crafted narrative, uttered with a passion that packs more punch than an Adele ballad, crazy Uncle Ned remains unconvinced. He doubles down with his â€śfacts.â€ť His passive aggressive wife Vera adds in a heavy dose of eye rolling to communicate her exasperation across the table.
Weâ€™ve all been there. The problem isnâ€™t logic; itâ€™s belief. And the problem isnâ€™t limited to crazy Uncle Ned. Our brains are hardwired to be belief engines. The human mind thrives on opportunities to prove itself right because it reinforces the neural pathways weâ€™ve already created. Conversely, the brain selectively ignores information that conflicts with our beliefs because there is no neural pathway to process it. If the conflicting information gets loud enough, itâ€™s more gratifying, and self-reinforcing, to punish the messenger than to reconsider our beliefs.
Your conversation with crazy Ned is a modern manifestation of a human dynamic that has been impeding progress for centuries. One of the more famous examples of refuting facts to justify belief occurred in 1663.
Galileo Galilei is considered the father of modern astronomy. He was the first to discover that the earth revolved around the sun. Prior to that time, people believed that the sun rotated around the earth. The sun rose in the east and set in the west; it was logical to believe the earth was stationary and the sun rotated around it.
When Galileo discovered the opposite, his new information wasnâ€™t greeted with enthusiasm. The people of Rome believed that they were the center of the universe. They did not take kindly to someone suggesting they were a mere planet rotating around a larger star. Galileo was convicted of heresy by the Roman Catholic Church. His theory known as â€śheliocentrismâ€ť was denounced, and he was instructed to â€śabandon the doctrine, not teach it to others and not to defend it.â€ť Galileo was sentenced to life imprisonment, later commuted to house arrest for the rest of his life.
When the controversy around him was heating up, Galileo wrote a letter to Johaness Kepler, a German mathematician, in which he expressed his frustration that the people who opposed his discoveries refused to even look through his telescope.
As an astronomer, Galileo was brilliant. But he failed to understand the
human psyche. Had he been a student of human behavior, he might have approached
the problem differently. Instead of confronting people with the evidence that
theyâ€™re wrong, he would have been better off asking questions.
The conversation could have gone like this:
The same model would work with Uncle Ned:
Asking someone questions suggests that you value their opinion. It invites
them to be our partner in further exploration. Telling someone theyâ€™re wrong
just gets you eye rolls and sighs from the other side of the turkey table.
Lisa Earle McLeod is a sales leadership consultant. Companies like Apple, Kimberly-Clark and Pfizer hire her to help them create passionate, purpose-driven sales forces. She the author of several books including Selling with Noble Purpose: How to Drive Revenue and Do Work That Makes You Proud, a Wiley publication, released Nov. 15, 2012. She has appeared on The Today Show, and has been featured in Forbes, Fortune and The Wall Street Journal. She provides executive coaching sessions, strategy workshops, and keynote speeches.
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Published here on: 24-Apr-16