How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
Get others to do as you want them to do simply by starting your request with 'I want...'.
Name items that you want. State actions that you want to do. You can also be more direct in getting them to do things by saying 'I want you to...'.
I want to go to bed now.
I want you to complete this work and tell me when you're done.
Everyone else has got one. I want it and I want now!
To want is human and natural. Nobody can stop you wanting. When you say 'I want' to other people, this can have several effects, where they can:
Where people respond positively to an 'I want' situation it can be because your statement has positioned you as a child and them as a parent who has a duty to provide for you. 'I want' can hence be a dependency statement.
I Want... is the 37th of the 64 compliance-gaining strategies described by Kellerman and Cole.
Kellermann, K. & Cole, T. (1994). Classifying compliance gaining messages: Taxonomic disorder and strategic confusion. Communication Theory, 1, 3-60