How we change what others think, feel, believe and do
Think about the things you want. Then think about what you believe about getting what you want. Consider carefully whether what you believe somehow stops you from getting what you want.
Reframe unhelpful beliefs, seeing thing in a new way that forces you to reconsider the truth.
Listen openly to others. Try to understand how they believe what they do. Wonder whether it would serve you well to believe likewise.
Wonder also where your unhelpful beliefs came from. Was is from an early negative experience? A critical teacher or parent? Think how silly it would be to keep believing such things.
A person does not wash very often. They wonder why and realize it is because they were told they were dirty by an old teacher, and so they had kept being dirty. They reject the belief and wash frequently.
A person who wants to lose weight realizes that they believe they cannot stick to a diet and that diets do not work anyway. They reframe this positively as believing they can eat what is healthy, which they do and so shed weight.
Beliefs are assumed truths. When we interact with the world we form beliefs about how it works, what is right and so on. We also form beliefs about people, particularly ourselves. We decide whether we are clever or stupid, good or bad, talented or untalented and so on.
Beliefs have an enormous effect on us. We see the world through the lens of what we believe, not what the world is truly like.
Limiting beliefs are those things that we believe which hold us back, preventing us from doing what we might otherwise do and get what we might otherwise get. They often have unreliable sources, often reaching back to childhood.
Just realizing what beliefs are and that we have a choice in what we believe can be incredibly empowering. Changing belief, however is not always that easy as the subconscious has a tendency to cling to beliefs. We hence need to persuade it to change.